How to give a great blowjob, every single time.

Blowjobs, they need no introduction. You know what it’s all about, giving a blowjob is basically
an art form. Once you get over the initial intimidation and mental blocks, giving pleasure and
being good at what you do can be a tremendous confidence-booster. Knowing that you blew his
mind (not just his penis), makes you feel like a powerful sex maestro, and there is nothing more
satisfying than that.
Whether you are a regular at giving head or just starting out, we’ve got your back. Keep these
few tips in mind and you’ll be acing the act. Every. Single. Time.

1. Start slowly

Anticipation is your best friend! Build it up by starting with gentle strokes, don’t put your
mouth there immediately. If you’re not sure where to start, you can begin with a long lick
on the underside of the shaft, or by gently sucking on the head of the penis.

2. Get it wet, as wet as you can

Don’t be afraid to spit on it. No, seriously, a slippery blowjob feels really, really good. The
combination of warmth and wetness is extremely pleasurable, and he will definitely
appreciate the messiness so don’t be shy.

3. Play around

Consistent motion and rhythm leads to orgasm. If you don’t just want to get him off and
get it over with, vary the motions every so often. Cover the base of his shaft and use
your mouth, creating suction as you come upward. Alternate with two hands, and build
up the speed. The part of the penis where the head connects to the shaft is usually the
most pleasurable point.

4. Gagging is alright

It is physically impossible to give a blowjob and not gag at all, especially if you are trying
to deepthroat. Relax yourself, don’t tense up your throat. Breathe through your nose and
if the gag comes up, work it into the act! Don’t resist it.
5. Practice taking it deeper
Gag reflexes ease up over time, so if deepthroating is something you are into then you
can practice with your fingers or on a phallic-object. The trick is in the breathing and
relaxing the back of your throat. Throwing up due to a gag reflex is a rare thing, and you
will know how far you can take it if you practice. You will need breaks to breathe.

6. ...But you can also fake it with your tongue

Not a deepthroating person? No problem. You can fake it by folding your tongue
backwards and tucking it, that way his penis will be against the back of the tongue and
he will feel like he is reaching the back of your throat.

7. You don’t HAVE to swallow

Never, EVER do anything you don’t want to do just because it is glorified in porn.
However, if you are going to swallow, the best way to do it is QUICKLY. Don’t let it sit in
your mouth, swallow it in one swift gulp.

8. Be vocal, get feedback

Different things work for different people. Ask your partner how he likes to masturbate,
what motions get him off, is there a particular position he prefers. Does he like a little bit
of teeth grazing on his penis? Some people do, for others it is absolutely off-limits. Does
he like to be teased in a particular way? Get feedback and incorporate it into your
technique the next time you’re with him.

9. Don’t worry about how you’re looking

Trust us, he doesn’t care. He’s feeling amazing and even though you might think you
look silly, you look absolutely sexy to him so let those inhibitions go.

10. Pro-Tip: Use this one motion to drive him over the edge

Once the penis is wet and slippery, you can use your hand to circle around the top of the
shaft, moving your wrist towards yourself and letting your palm go over the head of the
penis as it comes around. Keep a steady motion. Basically, you concentrate the
stimulation just on the top of the penis and the point where the head meets the shaft.
Have fun with it! Because that is what is important, right? If you are having fun and are
enthusiastic about giving pleasure, you are going to have a fun mutual experience. And
as with anything, practice makes perfect.

    


                                                  Written By: Indraja Saroha

Indraja is a sex positivity activist and aspiring filmmaker. She promotes comprehensive sex education and open dialogue about sexuality issues on her YouTube channel, Liberating Sexuality.

 

 


 

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