Polyamory: How to Love Many And Well

For a subject that can involve a practically infinite amount of variables, styles, and forms, the basic idea is actually pretty simple: polyamory (poly for short) is about being emotionally and/or sexually connected to more than one person at a time. As for what makes a happy poly relationship ... well, that, too, is simple in concept. So simple that it can be summed up in only a few words: are you happy – and is everyone you are involved with happy as well?If the answer is yes then congratulations! You may pick up your complimentary gift basket on the way out. It’s when the answer is--shall we say--less than yes that the real work begins. But don’t feel bad: like any kind of relationship poly will always have its ups and downs—and times to rethink, renegotiate or reevaluate can come up at any time. Because of that, it’s always a good idea to pause every once in a while and check in with all the people involved--particularly yourself. One of the most common hurdles that people face in a polyamorous relationship is that green-eyed monster--jealousy. Now there are some poly people who look at jealousy as something that is to be avoided—or defeated. Well, I’ve got news for you: jealousy is a valid and understandable emotion and it is something that practically every human being experiences. But that doesn’t mean you can easily look jealousy in its metaphorical face and understand it. While a complex emotion, jealousy often springs from feeling that someone else is getting what you aren’t. In that way it is a form of lacking: that my partner is taking sex or love away from me and giving it to someone else. It is said that polyamory is all about communication—and that is very true. Being in contact with everyone you are involved with is essential. But communication is also extremely important with the most important member of your poly relationship: yourself. This is where many can face and understanding jealousy, by taking the time to really examine your feelings. Just saying to yourself, or your partners, that you are jealous doesn’t do a hellava lot. But being able, through introspection and self-analysis, that you are feeling insecure and need more, or a certain kind of attention, is an important part of more through and hopefully past being angry, insecure, depressed ... in short, jealous.

Here’s also where outside communication also comes into play...

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Written By:  M.Christian

Calling M.Christian versatile is a tremendous understatement. Extensively published in science fiction, fantasy, horror, thrillers, and even nonfiction, it is in erotica that M.Christian has become an acknowledged master, with stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and in fact too many anthologies, magazines, and sites to name. Wanna know more about M.Christian? Click Here

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