Hey y’all, If you don’t already know me, my name is Chantel. I am the woman behind Wild Love Nation. I wanted to take some time to tell you why sex education and sexuality is so important to me.
From a young age I was exposed to sexuality & nudity. I remember being about 5 or 6 and going to a biker rally with my mom; I always loved motorcycles. It wasn’t until I was 16 that I looked back on old photos my mother had of me, and I saw a one of me at this biker rally. I was in a floral poofy dress, sat all proud on this Harley with a beaming smile. I noticed all the topless women in the background and it kind of hit me “wow mom, this is kind of inappropriate, don’t you think?!” She didn’t seem to see what I saw but at that moment I gained more of an understanding of why nudity never bothered me.
It was also at 16 that my aunt, whom I lived with at the time sat me down and asked “have you had sex?”, I replied no (the honest truth) and she said “ok, before you have sex, you need to figure out what you like!” At the time, I was so uncomfortable but I took her advice because I trusted her and she was a safe person in my life. I didn’t have very many of those growing up!
I set out to do exactly what my aunt told me, I explored and played, went to my first sex toy home party (you guessed it, with my aunt). It truly was one of the best things she ever taught me. I was able to voice to my partners more than most what I liked and therefore had more pleasurable experiences than a lot of my friends and even women I speak to now! I was the girl teaching my friends how to masturbate and telling them how important it was!! And when i say teaching, I mean explaining what to do and giving them a book I had discovered. The book in case you are wondering is called ‘Tickle Your Fancy’ you can purchase it on amazon! It is one of the best investments you will ever make, I assure you.
Now it wasn’t all fun and games being a sexual young adult. I had many judgement’s from others about the kind of person it made me. To which I never cared much about! The older I’ve gotten the more important sexuality and teaching about it has become to me. It has given me confidence in myself and life, it has allowed me to be closer to my partners and to help so many people let go of their shame around sex. Our Sexuality is part of who we are and when we deny that, we deny a part of ourselves.
Having a healthy view on our sexuality can be one of the most empowering feelings in the world, its power to bring us closer to ourselves and our partners is unmatched by anything else in my opinion. We are proven to be healthier and happier when we have a healthy sex life.
Looking back on my upbringing and all of the above, it shouldn’t come as a surprise to me or anyone else that I ventured onto a path of help others find and explore their sexuality and I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way!