Porn And Personal Empowerment

Porn can be good for you. No, not that it’s a perfectly healthy, and often very effective, way for people to become sexually aroused–which it most definitely is. But that it can also be a valuable tool for boosting self-confidence and even an equally potent means to even achieve a powerful level of personal empowerment.

Are you sitting down?  Resting comfortably? You sure? I can wait.  (Jeopardy “thinking music” plays). That better?  Good, because this might be kind of a shocker.

Well, here it goes: porn can be good for you.

No, not that it’s a perfectly healthy, and often very effective, way for people to become sexually aroused–which it most definitely is.  

But that it can also be a valuable tool for boosting self-confidence and even an equally potent means to even achieve a powerful level of personal empowerment.

Porn has evolved

Back in the so-called “golden age” of adult entertainment, porn was created pretty much solely by men for men: with little or no consideration for any other audience, let alone how the making of these films might affect the lives of women in the industry.

Thankfully, this is no longer the case, as we have entered the era of small but very focused niche performers creating content for a similarly niche audience.

Sure, we still have huge studios that remain powerhouses with a big hand in steering the genre, but we have an arguably similarly huge number of creators who continue to push the boundaries about what porn, and the performers, can be.

For instance, we’ve seen a wave of culturally sensitive, and even progressive films–and creators and performers–making not only arousing productions but ones that touch on important issues like consent, gender inclusivity, trans visibility and support, plus disabilities and so much more–that entertain as well as educate about things like masturbation, BDSM, safe(r) sex … the list goes on and wonderfully on.

We’ve even seen a big rise in what many are calling feminist porn: films and media produced by women for women–or to educate others about the importance of respecting and empowering female energy.

Because of these and more changes to the adult entertainment industry, porn has evolved, and continues to evolve, to a place that’s as fun as it is informative–and even supportive.

Porn helping with self-esteem

Another aspect of how adult entertainment can be a positive force goes back to production companies and performers expanding their horizons when it comes to gender, the spectrum of orientations, and body styles.

It goes like this: that the new porn landscape can lead to also delivering a healthy dose of self-confidence.  

How?  Well, let me put it this way: if you’re feeling anxious or depressed about your body, for whatever reason, and feel that no one could sexually desire someone with your age, six, mobility challenges, or anything else you feel yourself being flawed about taking some time and look at porn.

But not looking at porn in and of itself but by searching for what you are, or think you are, and doing so potentially finding not just a few but an entire genre of adult entertainment, with thousands and thousands of fans.  

Which could lead to not just accepting your own body but even take pride in it.  Who knows, if you wanted to you could even become a sex star, all because of what you originally thought was a flaw but now you see as something that many people don’t just find attractive but sexually desirable.

The same can be true of sexual activities or interests: punching into a search engine what your kink is can be a wonderfully eye-opening experience when you see that you aren’t, at all, alone in your kinks but that there is a blossoming community of people who are aroused by the same exact thing.

You are not alone

One of the great powers the Internet has brought us is the ability to connect with other people as never before, to find mutual interests, shared desires, and to see that there are other people who have your own gender-expression, orientientation, ethnicity, spirituality, frustrations, fears, and much more.

Yes, it can sometimes feel like it’s an unconquerable uphill battle, with trolls and casual cruelty souring your search, but discovering how much you have in common with other people, the similarities rather than differences can be a way to find that you are far from alone.

Porn, surprisingly, can be a way to do just that: by seeking out your sexual pleasures, gender, body type, age, ethnicity, interests and activities, et cetera, you might very well be pleasantly surprised that you can even be desired for who you are.

A friend of mine put it quite eloquently when they said that discovering someone, somewhere out there would pay handsomely to see you naked can be insulting but also extremely empowering: it all being in how you look at it.

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