You, as a sexual being, now get to spread your wings and start to soar. This sexual wellness aspect of Exploration helps you to develop and create new healthy sexual core beliefs that are in line with your deep sexual desires; it is the delightful playground of new pleasure possibilities.
What do I mean by ‘explore’? I mean that you are now ready to look at your deepest sexual desires and fantasies. This is a great time for pleasure and self-discovery. It is also time to start sharing your sexual desires and fantasies with your lover(s).
By exploring you will:
- Learn to trust
- Take bigger emotional risks
- Improve communication skills
- Increase intimacy with your lover(s)
This is the time you will start to decide which aspects of exploration you might want to become a reality or keep as your personal fantasies. The Sexual Wellness aspect of exploration is a time when we look at and heal our fears of unworthiness, judgment and core beliefs. These beliefs affect what you feel is okay and what is wrong to express sexually.
Point of Interest: Most people’s core beliefs surrounding sexuality are not in line with what our true desires are. As a result, this can make you feel like a freak or that something is wrong with you. Those core sexual beliefs were created in early childhood and youth by others’ ideas and beliefs. Some of those beliefs may be healthy and some may not. Remember, our culture is deeply afraid of pleasure and happiness and the expression of either one.
As a result of this new self-discovery and acceptance, many people have sought out Alternative Lifestyles and found other people with similar thinking and beliefs.
The Alternative Lifestyles are considered anything that is not a part of our (accepted) societal norms: e.g. Swinging, Polyamory, BDSM, Kink, Nudism, etc. In these lifestyles there are many desirable, pleasurable, adventurous and scary moments.
EXPLORING ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLES:
Naturism has many different philosophical sources and means many things to different people. There is no one definition. In 1974, the INF defined naturism as: Naturism is a lifestyle in harmony with nature, expressed through personal and social nudity, and characterized by self-respect of people with different opinions and of the environment. At one end of the spectrum are the nudists who just enjoy a nude lifestyle, and at the other are the naturists, who have deeply held beliefs and see communal nudity as just one of many important principles. Most people that practice Nudism and Naturism say it has nothing to do with sexuality…
Polyamory is the practice, desire or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Polyamory, often abbreviated to poly, is sometimes described as consensual, ethical, or responsible non-monogamy. The word is occasionally used more broadly to refer to any sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies. An emphasis on ethics, honesty and transparency all around is widely regarded as the crucial defining characteristic.
Swinging or partner swapping (sometimes referred to as the swinging lifestyle or simply “the lifestyle”) is a non-monogamous expression of relationship, in which partners in a committed relationship agree, as a couple, for both partners to engage in sexual activities with other people, sometimes referred to as recreational or social sex. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from a spontaneous sexual activity at an informal social gathering of friends to a swingers’ club and can involve internet-based introduction.
BDSM is a consensual lifestyle choice, which is often expressed in adult role-play between two or more individuals. The compound acronym, BDSM, is derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), sadism and masochism.
In current usage, the term kink has often come to refer to a range of objective and objectifying sexual practices ranging in degree from the playful to the paraphilic. These include spanking, bondage, dominance and submission, sadomasochism(BDSM) and sexual fetishism. Kink sexual practices go beyond what are considered conventional sexual practices as a means of heightening the intimacy between sexual partners
Just an aside – anything outside of married, heterosexual, missionary intercourse is defined as kinky… So that means that most of the world is kinky… woohooo!
In these lifestyles there are many desirable, pleasurable, adventurous and scary moments. Let Gaia guide you, so both you and your relationship(s) can have positive, safe moments and experiences rather than allowing the scary and emotionally painful ones to affect your true desires. To book a call with her visit www.succulentliving.com or www.empressgaia.com for all your BDSM needs.
Until next time have an adventurous bum wiggling day!
P.S. For more fun and easy Holistic Sexual Wellness and BDSM education come download and listen to her podcast “My Orgasmic Life” found on all your favourite podcasting platforms like Spreaker or Spotify or Apple podcast or Google Podcast or iHeartRadio.